Spent a night at Auntie’s place. The place has four rooms of which only one is used. The rest are guests’. I went into one room which is where she keeps all of her books, novels, study guides, teaching guides and aides. Lord! her novels collection are to die for. I made a mental calculation and estimated around 1000 novels the least. Diana Palmer’s occupied the whole bookcase. 98% of pure Historical Romance. I asked her if she has any Historical fiction or any sorts but romance and she claims to have only 100 of them and the reason to why she collects Romance is because it’s something she never had.

She was single for quite a long time and when she got married last year, she still thinks her marriage does not resemble the idea of true romance. I can’t blame her for asking too much. She’s been reading romance novels since the 70’s. So the idea of romance is far-fetched from what it is now. Now no one writes love letters to their lover. Does email count?

“When you get married someday, make sure you think twice before you agree to tie the ‘invisible’ knot”

“Sorry, but I really don’t want to get married. Not now. Even if I do, I’d only marry someone who’s like my father”

“Haha, you mean he must be really good at fixing cars, loves to speed and has that chinese looks?”

“No hahahaha. you know how my father is. He’s a family guy. How often you see him hanging out with his mates? never , right? and he does not even want to buy hand phones and if it’s not for my mother who nags all the time saying it’s hard to contact my father, I think he would not own any now.”

“But what does he do every time he goes back from work?”

“Let me see. Watches TV. Kacau-kacau my mother cooking in the kitchen. Plays with the cat. Fixes his cars. Reads newspapers. Hahaha.”

“That’s interesting” *makes a funny face* hahaha

To think about what I said, I guess I’m just use to seeing my father at home, not having good times with friends but rather spends quality time at home with the family. My friends keep on complaining how their father is never home and how their husbands love to stay out late at night on weekends. I sure want someone who knows his way around cars, computers and should know a little bit of everything and not effing stupid. Thank you very much. My father possesses the traditional type of what a father should be but that keeps my mother in her place. She does not have anything to worry bout and can relentlessly rely on him all the time. I like the idea of not having to get worried sick of my future husband’s whereabout and gives me enough time to do stuff I love to do instead of spying on him 24/7 and checking his phone.

Another problem. You know, when you marry someone, you marry his family too. That’s one thing that bothers me. I don’t feel connected with anyone. And how often do you heard of in-laws trying to manage one’s marriage life just because they feel they need to do it. I personally think when one is married, the in-laws should just stay away from the personal affair. This is when I would definitely want to adopt the western type of marriage. They don’t see their in-laws all the time, and the only time they would meet up with each other is on occasions like Christmas etc.

If I were to get married, I’d only want to see my in-laws once a year. Or better yet my future husband does not have any parents and sisters or brothers. haha. Not that I am selfish. Just that, it’s difficult for me to accept and get acquainted with people. Imagine after years of marriage you or you other half decide to end the marriage, This thing would come in handy. You won’t have any sort of connection with your ex-husband and the ex-in-laws? it makes life more easier, right? you have not gotten to know them and when you split up, there would be no awkward things going in case you meet them somewhere. Buat inda tahu saja. Memang banar pun. Bukan nya kenal sangat. haha